New Comic: Staring Indian Aunties

New Comic: Staring Indian Aunties

New Comic: Staring Indian Aunties

While this is not a new topic, I do like to touch on this subject every now and again. In India, I’m stared at by more aunties than men – something I’m sure other foreign girls or intercultural couples here in India can relate to.

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When I’m out with DN, we’re always being stared at by one aunty or another. Which, to me, is mostly amusing.

Here are some examples of the types of aunties that stare:

  • Incredibly Concerned Aunty
    This aunty has no trace of anger, just concern. She can’t fathom why we are together.
  • Suspicious Aunty
    Suspicious Aunty is probably generalizing me as a stereotypical “Westerner”, and sending negative energy my way.
  • The Docile-Looking, Genuine Curiosity Aunty 
    This aunty is calm with a sweet face, it’s just that her eyes won’t stray from me. She’s most likely trying to understand me.
  • The Analytical Aunty
    This aunty appears to be analyzing me from head to toe, as she tries to calculate whether I’m foreign or an Indian national with really pale features. (And as long as I don’t open my mouth, they usually never know.)
    OR, she’s really trying to figure out who I am and what I want with that poor innocent Indian boy. (DN)
    DN would lovingly dub them: Sherlock Holmes ki Chachi, which means “Aunt of Sherlock Holmes”.
  • Angry Aunty
    Angry Aunty probably knows exactly what’s up – and she doesn’t like it. If looks could kill…

We both find ourselves rather amused, especially by the aunties that stare with a face of pure shock. We can imagine that they are thinking things like, “Oh god, she’s going to ruin this poor boy!” or “I’m going to tell your parents!”

In life, when someone makes me uncomfortable, I find humor to ease my discomfort and often embarrassment. I am shy, so I get embarrassed easily. I feel miserable, my cheeks burn, my face turns tomato-red. It’s not pretty. I used to really feel when aunties would stare at me with their burning laser-beam eyes, but I toughened up a bit. I can ignore it as second nature, and when I do see it, I am just so amused!


  • Cindy

    At least you’re good about it and find humor. No one enjoys being stared at or having negative energy hammering them. I got a little of that at Disneyland of all places. I don’t know by looking at people what nationality they are and I can’t begin to guess but I do know they were not American nor African and they were not light skinned. But when I drove past them in an electric cart for the disabled, they looked at me so intently as if they were amused. They had half smiles and just stared at me all the way up to them and past them. I wanted to ask them if they would like to take a picture with me but I didn’t. Of course it felt a little heavy, I felt judged but I just moved on. It’s so strange that I think nothing of different nationalities in my country but if I travel I get gawked at. Oh well, at least I find it amusing.

    • Rani

      That’s annoying, sorry they did that to you. No matter how loving towards other people we can be, that won’t change them. I came to India with expectations of good will and enlightenment. I was sadly mistaken and disappointed to find judgment and vanity.
      I had to toughen up in many ways, and I guess it was naive of me to believe people would be as kind and accepting as me. Lesson learned, though.

  • Rahnee

    Oh dear I do not know what aunties will make of us but I’m assuming they will be staring exta hard our way when we eventually get to India! I’m glad you have a sense of humour about it 🙂 that is one thing I am a little worried about.. Other’s perceptions of our relationship.. Even though we shouldn’t be concerned about it.. But quite honestly I don’t know how I will handle it

    • Rani

      Yeah, I really hated dealing with judgment at first. I still hate the idea that people are judging me and my relationship – but I’ve toughened up since living here. Just do your best to reflect it, and spend more time enjoying each other. I’m excited to see how your story unfolds! 🙂

  • Deb H

    Glad it is not bothering you as much now. Remember it is not what others think of you, but what you think of yourself that matters. Hold your head up high and smile at them. Cherish your relationship with DN & do not let others affect it.

  • amanda mcmahon

    Oh and because our daughter has my light hair/eyes I get the “she probably cheated on him” stare!

  • Cyn

    After a few years you stop noticing these aunties, they actually stare at everybody, Indian girls included. My favourite are the shopping cart examinator aunties, they could burn a hole through my pile of groceries trying to decipher my eating habits and how well it gels with whatever preconceived idea they have. Sorry ladies, I know what vegetables and fruits look like and I love them 🙂

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