I get asked a lot of questions like: “Are you married yet?“, “When are you and DN getting married?“, and “Why haven’t you gotten married yet?”
Most of these questions come from readers of my blog or other bloggers. My family doesn’t ask me anymore.
I wish I could say the answer was easy, but it’s actually quite complicated. I was prepared to marry DN during my first visit to India. We were practically inseparable those last two months, and we both knew that we wanted to be together for the rest of our lives.
When he told his family about our love for each other, earlier this year, they were shocked and immediately disapproved.
They haven’t hinted at approval since then…
It’s important to DN to wait for the approval of his family, so that’s what we’re trying to do.
But I can’t help but wonder: How can his family approve of me if they don’t get to know me better? Yet they can’t get to know me better because I’m technically not allowed to go to his home (now that they know) until after marriage. Which won’t happen until they approve of me.
It’s a catch 22.
I want to get married soon.
DN wants to wait for his family’s approval (which I understand), and to have better jobs and be more financially secure. I respect his wishes.
After reading this article, I started to really reflect on the situation. Ultimately, I feel that getting married won’t delay any progress or success in the future.
I feel like something needs to be done in this situation, and I just can’t shake the feeling that it needs to happen now.
It’s easier some days. Just not lately…