My intercultural relationship needs all the support it can get, right now. Between the two of us, we are blessed to have a handful of people who support our relationship. A few friends on DN’s side, plus two key members of his family who support us. It’s not unusual that my family and friends support my choices and my relationship with him.
Some days need more support than others. This battle is significantly harder than it seems. People are very vain and judgmental here. It’s a rare treasure when you find someone who is not nosy, but still cares. Someone who is helpful, but not in a judgmental kind of way; someone who is humble.
Yes, DN is in love with an American girl; he is in love with a foreigner; he is in love with a non-Indian girl. That does not mean that I’m a bad person. My skin color has nothing to do with the Western divorce rate. My culture has nothing to do with my personal choices.
Yes, I am in love with an Indian man. No need to explain ourselves.
That should be all that matters, but sadly, it’s not. Apparently, getting married when we want is considered selfish.
I’m doing my best to trust the process right now – because I want nothing more than to marry him and spend the rest of my life with him; I want nothing more than to spend every life with him, after this.
We’re waiting for the approval of his parents, which is noble, but… We’ll be waiting awhile. I’m not considered good enough as I am now.
And apparently, if we marry as I am now, people will laugh and mock and judge us and his family…
But wait… Is doing something noble for someone who is acting with vanity, judgment and discrimination really noble after all?
Adding this to my list of “messed up things I don’t agree with”.
Not Good Enough… Yet
P.s. Hoping the naysayers within his family have a change of heart… Hoping to feel better about this sooner rather than later.